We have at one point in our lives experience some form of trauma and grief. Each experiences not a pleasant one to say the least. Going through the ups and downs of the emotions. The sorrow, the anger, the hurt, the pain. You wonder if you ever will ever be normal again.

Time passes and life goes on. You go on with your everyday life, your work, your family and eventually you feel a little better.  You need to function as normal as you possibly can. After all there are people depending on you. So everyone around you think, you’re fine, you are smiling, interacting and back to normal.

However, there will be moments when you’re alone where you find yourself in the deepest of despair, the anger, the frustration, tears just flow down. No one sees that because deep down you cannot show to others the emotions you’re feeling…maybe the vulnerability, if others saw, it shows them that you’re weak (in your mind). Or you don’t want them to worry about you because you’re always the ‘strong’ one. Maybe it’s your pride that gets in the way to show others that you are a human being and have emotions too.

You think you’re over it, overcome all that trauma and grief but if it keeps coming back over and over, what does that tell you about your trauma and grief?

I understand trauma and grief. I understand how it can change a behaviour, change how you see people. Trust becomes an issue.

I have gone through it myself. I thought that I have overcome it, I’m interacting, I’m smiling on the outside however, I find myself, and when I truly dig deep within myself, I wasn’t happy. I still had the anger, my body remembers the fear of what happened to me. I realized, maybe just maybe there are still remnants of the trauma and anger that I was still harbouring. Otherwise why would I still feel the anger and fear if I had totally gotten over it. So my journey to release all that does not serve me began. No sooner as I realized this, I felt much better physically. Letting go of all the anger, the self inflicted shame has allowed me the new found freedom my body has not had the joy to experience.

As a coach, it was easier to adjust, to release all the emotional fear and acknowledge what I needed to do. It was not easy but I had the awareness. That awareness is the creation of change.

For those who are still seeking to be set free, to be able to experience the joy back into your life, why not give yourself a gift and come sit with me and ler’s ralk.

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